Monday, June 9, 2014

The Hypnotic Mystery of Lord Krishna

Lord Krishna - the supreme lord... The God of hope, knowledge, wisdom, intellect, diplomacy. The God who convinced Arjun and rest of the Pandavas to fight the battle of Dharma and helped them win as well. 

But the question I always ask myself is if Lord Krishna was actually an incarnation of God... Or was he simply a great human being - wise, strong, intelligent, witty and magical...!!!

Well... we mostly think of magic and God as quite synonymous. In fact, I hardly know of any God of any religion who hasn't demonstrated any miracle! Infact, miracle is what surprises people and makes them believe in super natural power or say godliness. 

But think about it, isn't it possible that Lord Krishna was not a God, but a great man never the less who was blessed with wisdom, warfare, power of words and weapons and more importantly the power of "hypnotism"??? 

Raasleela with all the gopis could have been hypnotism done to Radha and others. So could have been the case when people in Kaurav Rajya Sabha saw Dushasana unable to remove Draupadi's clothes with more and more divine cloth pouring in. Even the powerful form  Lord Krishna showed when Duryodhan tried to capture him (when he came as Pandava's messenger) could have been hypnotism. So could have been his Viraat form display to Arjun. Even the instance when Lord Krishna covers the Sun with clouds so that Arjun could kill Jaydrath could have been hypnotism done to Arjun, Jaydrath and others. 

Practically, all the magic that happened, can someway or the other be attributed to people believing something other than the truth which is pretty much the foundation of hypnosis. 

So in all probability it is possible that Lord Krishna was an excellent hypnotist, a man with unbound wisdom, intellect, power, wit and godliness. But could still have been a human...!!! For sure one of the greatest humans we have had in our lifetime. 

But whatever is the truth - whether he was an incarnation of God or a divine human - he had unbound Godliness. And that is strong enough a reason to worship him...!!!

For all those who want to see the magic of hypnosis check out some amazing real videos below:

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

7 Habits of An Effective Leader

Leader... Someone who leads... often by example or by previous experience... someone who isn't a manager by choice... someone whose personal power overrides his positional power... and someone for whom people love to work for...!!!

But what are the few habits of leaders that makes them effective and loved by their members:

Habit 1: Trust and Accountability

An effective leader is a man of words. He, with his actions, makes his people believe that he will stand by them in the hour of need. He also instills the faith that if he has asked his team to do something - he will take complete accountability of the failure (if it so happens). And that he will not pass on the blame to one of his members to save his face. A good leader also ensures that if one of his team member has led to a failure, he doesn't criticize the member openly. Rather, he sets up a 1:1 session and shares the constructive feedback. A good leader also is great in decision making. Quick yet effective decision making builds trust in the members and they never think of bypassing your by speaking directly to the next level. 

Habit 2: Regular coaching and helping members overcome opportunities

A good leader understands the opportunities of his members through regular coaching. He prioritizes the opportunities and helps his members overcome them one by one. An effective leader also believes that everyone wants to perform their best and if someone is underperforming, he must be constrained by some barriers. And a good leader on priority either removes the barrier or enables his members to overcome the barriers. 

Habit 3: Recognition

More often than not, leaders take the smooth working of the system as granted and don't attribute it to the efforts of the team members. It is very important for a leader to understand that if he doesn't have to interfere or personally involve in something - it is because his member is doing it most effectively. And it is very important for a leader to recognize his member infront of others. He also has to make his team believe that some members who are more outspoken and friendly than others aren't his more favourite and that he carefully notices how even his silent members are performing. 

Habit 4: Priority Setting and Clear Communication

It is imperative for a leader to understand that his members comprehend what he speaks and also what he doesn't speak. And that connotation is the fruit of the mind and tastes differently for different people. Therefore, for a leader it is very critical to be very clear with the message he wants to communicate so that there is minimum deviation in understanding. It is also very important for a leader to set cler priorities for his members and that the priorities should not be time/people/situation dependent. If the leader has the courage to stick to the priorities in all situations - his team members look at him with respect. 

Habit 5: Gives Second Chance

An effective leader understands that those who try to do something new and better - fail more than the ones who are vegetative. And that is why, he gives a second chance after failure. But to ensure other team members continue their support, he ensures that before giving a second chance, the member has understood the failure cause and has taken corrective/preventive actions this time. 

Habit 6: Freedom of Decision Making

A good leader understands that he can't micro manage everything. And for that reason he builds capability in his team and then gives his members the right amount of freedom for decision making. But at the same time, the leader also ensures that his member has thought about the contingency plan to ensure business continuity. 

Habit 7: Visionary

An effective leader is a visionary. He thinks beyond the day to day problems and decides where does he want to take his department. He thinks beyond what his members think and then uses his personal power and trust to convince his members that the vision is where there will be glory...!!!

And that my friend is a leader's journey of a thousand miles that begins with a single step...!!! 

Saturday, August 24, 2013

विनाश काले विपरीत बुद्धि or is it विपरीत बुद्धि विनाश काले...???

As an Indian, I have heard the phrase "विनाश काले विपरीत बुद्धि" uncountable times. For all those who don't have Hindi as the first or second language, the phrase means "that in the time of downfall, a person's wisdom also goes for a toss and his ability to differentiate between right and wrong blurs !". 

The simplest example of this comes from our mythology when Ravana, the most feared demon, kidnapped Goddess Sita and led himself to the path of self destruction. Since the time was ripe for his downfall, he could not appreciate the advise of his brother, the wise Vibhishan to return Sita to Lord Ram and save his kingdom from heaven's wrath. But as said "विनाश काले विपरीत बुद्धि", he could not differentiate between the right and the wrong and was destroyed. 

Another example comes from the Indian epic Mahabharata, where the evil Kaurav brothers, played evil games with the righteous Pandav brothers and took away their kingdom, wealth and even their wife. In the time of their downfall, they could not appreciate the advice of Lord Krishna to give Pandav only 5 villages and they will live peacefully. All Indians are witness to the destruction of the entire Kaurav community and the victory of the Pandav.

But the thought I always have is if it is just that in the time of downfall, a person can't differentiate between right and wrong? Or it is also the other way round that when a person isn't able to differentiate between the right and wrong, he walks on the path of self destruction?

For all those who are into Pink Floyd, take the example of Syd Barrett, the founding musician of perhaps the best rock band that ever existed. He was the lead vocalist, guitarist, and primary songwriter during the band's psychedelic years. Barrett's behavior became increasingly erratic and unpredictable, partly as a consequence of his reported heavy use of psychedelic drugs since he used to experiment making psychedelic music when he was on a high! As a result of which, the best rock artist (my personal opinion) remained in the band only for 10 years and in seclusion for the next almost 4 decades!!! A very clear of example of how the inability to differentiate between right and wrong led to his destruction.

In our day to day life, we come across uncountable situations where we are put on a cross road are to make a choice. Sometimes we get a chance to change the path which we choose and at the other times we aren't so lucky. Often, a rosy silhouette is observed at the path which is a dangerous shortcut, unconventional,  unclaimed. On the other hand, there is a righteous path which is long but walked more often by travelers who are equipped with patience, wisdom and modesty. The choice as always remains with the individual!

Patience and Satisfaction are the essence of a happy and a satisfying life. Everything happens at the right time. Our world is defined on the ground principle of equilibrium and the right timing. Anything which happens before time or is artificially created or destroyed before time creates a havoc and back fires!

As it is said... 

A person who does the right thing at the right time always succeeds!

Sunday, April 1, 2012


Leadership is the process of social influence in which one person can enlist the aid and support of others in the accomplishment of a common task. This is the Wikipedia definition with which I grew up with, during my 2 years in MBA.

But now with almost 4 years of work experience, I find the fundamentals of leadership to be much more complex, vast and deep than they are usually defined in textbook. But then there is always a gap between theory and practice.

Leadership can quite closely be related to a relationship. It is bi-directional and needs a lot of effort, consideration, trust, honesty, time and re-assurance. Leadership is about treating each of your team member as a unique entity – with his/her own unique strengths and weaknesses, confidence and fears. A leader does resource allocation optimally. He focuses on the skill, interest and passion needed for the task to be done and does the resource allocation accordingly. 

A leader knows each of his team member personally - their passion, their fears, their goal. A leader ensures that he understands all the 5 types of needs of his team member. He patiently listens to the stated needs of his team member and empathizes. He tries to keep himself in the shoes of his team member and then addresses the problem. He also tries to find the real need from the stated need. Occasionally, he is able to identify that the stated need was not in fact the real need. With this knowledge, he helps his team member understand the real need and efficiently addresses that need to whatever extent possible. Even if he is not able to address the need, he explains the reason why his hands are ties and why he is not able to help. The reason may be diverse, but the effort to understand and appreciate the problem is what will make the other person to smile! A leader through regular interaction also identifies the unstated needs of his team. A leader is an enabler and gets his team to speak up. He is also able to identify what are the needs that will delight his team and occasionally fulfills them. A good strategy is to link fulfilling of delight needs to achieving milestones. A leader knows how to keep his team member secrets and helps them share their secret needs, seamlessly. 

A leader gives ownership of tasks to his team member. And also assures him of his presence all through. A leader is not insecure of his people. He understands that he grows when his people grow. With this thought, he develops his people by giving them more responsibility, helping them directly and indirectly when needed, by coaching them and by showing trust in their capabilities. 

A leader tries to inculcate strong fundamentals of working in his team. But also understands and appreciates that all his people have different style of working. He instills in his people, strong founding principles of the organization they work for.

A leader is one who is able to lead and direct his people more by his personal power and less by his positional power.

Leadership is a journey of a thousand miles… but for sure it begins with a single step!